Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008
Self Esteem in the Dumps

Do you ever feel like you're being punished for being the size you are?

I need to get out of the golf business. I am supposed to be wearing all this golf apparel for my job, but everything I try on looks like sh*t. It's all made for girls who are like a size zero, and if you're not, well, they are just going to stitch some fabric together like a tent and you better just deal with it.

Natalie Gulbis - LPGA Professional Golfer & Skinny Bitch

Betsy Gladish - PGA Merchandise Specialist & Female Hobbit


It makes me so mad... and it makes me feel horrible about myself.

Every shirt I try on in a Medium (which is what size I wear at NORMAL stores) is like, skin tight, and buttons about to pop off, and cutting off the circulation in my arms. But when I try on a large, they are cut SO DIFFERENTLY. They fit my fat arms, but the rest of it hangs off of me like a potato sack. Either that or there is so much fabric in the back that I look like The Hunchback of Notre Dame.

It's really just plain disgusting. This job has been doing a number on my self esteem the past few months...

God help me the day when I am supposed to order PANTS from these people...
17 Comments
TheNichols
1) I hear ya. Clothes are made for sticks. I am a large woman (6' and lots of curves!) who has a really hard time fitting in anything. I'm in the process of trying to find a nice dress for a wedding...what a pain in the rear...especially since I'm in the middle of nowhere and don't have many shopping choices. Ordering stuff online isn't really paying off. Hope I can find something soon, the wedding is in a month!
Emmy Ann   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
daveheinzel
2) If it helps, I thought you looked great when we met up for lunch. You know, once I got past the hunchback and hairy warts and what not.

I have been feeling totally lethargic and fatty lately. Hopefully now that I'm back on the bike I'll start to get better, but this winter took a toll of my waist like never before.

Sorry you're down about yourself, but I promise you have a LOT going for you that most skinny bitches don't even know they're missing. Also I think it's probably true that most skinny bitches are never actually happy either.
Dave Heinzel   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
nheinzel
3) Betsy, I like you just the way you are!!!
!   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
soundchick
4) Don't get me started on this subject! There are people, including myself, who could never be a size zero no matter if they starved themselves for months or ate sensibly. I'm just not built that way and there is no reason why anyone should feel guilty for not looking that way. Personally, I don't care for the anorexic look. I'm working on getting this "baby weight" off and I'm sure it will be a long road but eventually I'll be back to my usually chubby-but-not-fat self.
soundchick   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
betsyradish
5) Awww... Thanks Heinzels and Emmy Ann :)

Dave, so true... Winter makes me FAT! I hope the bike will help me at least FEEL more in shape!
Betsy   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
spike
6) You could design a real woman line "The Betsy Golf Collection"
Spike   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
igna83
7) Well Betsy, let me say that although we've never met, and I do not know you personally, I would take your body over my own ANY DAY! I have been a plus-sized woman my entire life and thought I was fat back in my 20s when I was a size 14...oh, how I'd take that 14 again! HA!!

You are you just the way you are. You have a wonderful, loving boyfriend, a beautiful family and a circle of friends who adore you, you are educated and intelligent, funny and witty beyond the majority. Above all that, you have integrity, you are respected, and you are taken seriously when need be. And, THAT, my dear, is better than any pair of pants that fit, so get the next size up, and find a reasonably-priced tailor. Then, hop on your bike, get Robbie and go for an ice-cream cone!! :O)
Angi   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
SallyPants
8) Betsy, sorry you're feeling down, but your blog made me laugh. So if it entertains me, it's OK.

WTF is golf apparel? Are clothes really made specifically for golfing?
SallyPants   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
betsyradish
9) Angi... thank you sooooo much! You are too kind!

Sally, you have no idea. There is an entire CULTURE made specifically for golfers. I am finding out that most of them don't take too kindly to women in their business either. Yeah, it's really awesome.
Betsy   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
ben
10) Betsy,

I just belted out a huge lauhgh/cough thing in the newsroom after reading your caption for Natalie Gulbis.

Thank you for making me half puke my jimmy john's. haha!

-Ben
Biker Ben   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
lgrant
11) I love the Hobbit picture--too cool. I agree with Angi and know her pain. I too fight the weight but I've come to terms with it and will not let it defeat me for good health. It isn't the size but the quality of life that is important. I watch people on the streets of Portland and I think the "stick women" look horrible. Like twigs in clothes. They may love that look but I'd rather see someone who looks and acts healthy and happy instead of weight-obsessed and anorexic. I agree--start your own line of golf clothing. Maybe it is an uptapped market where you can make your fortune helping others feel less frustrated and proud to look like women.
LGrant   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
betsyradish
12) Unfortunately, LGrant & Spike, I don't like golf enough to make a living from it. If I was going to create a clothing line, it would definitely be PJ's... or "lounge wear" I guess they call it :)

Ben, I am glad I made you laugh. Natalie Bulbous makes me laugh too... Skinny little b----
Betsy   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
lgrant
13) Comfort over fashion (or comfort IN fashion) sounds good to me! Go for it. Call it Hobbit Wear. :)
LGrant   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
betsyradish
14) OMG that is SUCH a good idea!
Betsy   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Leslie
15) Betsy, In the photos I have seen of you you look great, and very pretty I might add. Too bad the folks who make golf clothes don't realize that they would sell more if they made them for normal sized women.
Leslie   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
igna83
16) And while we're at it, could we tell the manufacturers of plus-sized clothing that just because a woman wears a size 22/24 or a 2X or 3X that her arms do NOT drag on the floor like an Orangutan? Why do they do that??!!

Oh, and I have a tshirt I wear all the time as my Hobbit Wear; it says, "Reformed Anorexic" - I get laughs every time I wear it!
Angi   Wednesday, April 23, 2008
mrsshoo
17) Betsy, I totally feel your pain!! Working with skinny bitch teenagers who insist on their fattiness is detrimental to the ol' self-esteem. They also like to point out when I need my eyebrows waxed or my hair did. Lovely.
You're beautiful and skinny...and funny when you talk about golf clothes.
Mrs. Shoo   Friday, April 25, 2008
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