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Saturday, July 23rd, 2011

My Dad

I know I've written about him on here from time to time, but I don't know if words could ever really express the kind of man he was. He wasn't perfect. But he was so loved, by so many. He was incredibly generous--a couple of years ago we were at Benihana for our annual Christmas Eve traditional dinner and there was a couple sitting with us. He started talking to them and at the end of our meal, he discreetly paid their bill. He gave everyone a second chance (and in my case, thousands of them). He was the most amazing Grandfather--I've never seen a Grandpa, at the age of 77, crawl around on the floor playing cars with his 2 year old grandson the way he did with 6. He would call me, leave me a message and say "Hi Jules, it's Pops, call me when you can"...as if I wouldn't recognize his voice. I'm 39 years old, married for almost 10 years, and he still gives me gas money when we go home to visit. I was his little girl, he was my Daddy, my Papa, Pops.

I talked to him today, around noon. He was really excited about our new car and asked us to plan a road trip soon to Michigan so he could see us. I put him on speaker so he could talk to 6 (Lilly was outside). 6 grabbed a photo of him and started crying, he was so frustrated that he could hear "boppa" but couldn't see him. He sounded tired, but that wasn't unusual--he typically dozed in his chair watching various golf tournaments on TV and I figured I had woken him up when I called.

Two hours later, my sister called saying Dad was gasping for air and she had called 911. She called back a bit later saying he was unconscious but had a pulse. She called from the hospital to say they were working on him. And then she called to say he had died.

I knew this day would come, of course I did. But I didn't know it would be so soon. So many of the people I've spoken with today have said "I thought he'd live forever" and you know, that's kind of how I felt too. I certainly didn't think he'd go before my Mom.


20 Comments
_DELETED_soundchick
I'm soooooo sorry. I still have both my parents so I have no idea what you're going through. To be honest, I try not to think about those things because there's not much point in worrying about it since it's out of our control. Hopefully you can take some condolence in knowing that all of us are here for you on here and feel free to use this as an outlet in anyway that helps. Stay strong but remember to "let it out" if you need to. It sounds like you have a great support system behind you though.
soundchick   Saturday, July 23, 2011
igna83
Oh Jules...Beth just texted me, so I jumped online. Though I lost my own father to a long, drawn-out battle w/cancer and not quickly, I do understand what it's like to lose a Dad. It's heart wrenching. And I'm so sorry. You and your family--especially Lilly and 6--will be in my thoughts and prayers, and I wish you peace...
Angi   Saturday, July 23, 2011
nheinzel
I'm so sorry, Jules. So very sorry. I've been thinking about your dad all afternoon and was hoping this would have a better outcome. I feel like I have come to know your dad through what you have written about him on Humzoo and the pictures you've shared. I'm so glad you all could have that wonderful vacation together a few weeks ago. You'll never forget it. He seemed like the nicest man. I know you'll miss him terribly. My thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time.
!   Saturday, July 23, 2011
lgrant
Hi Jules. I'm sorry to hear about your father. I was hoping the news would be better. I know you and your family share a huge loss. I agree with Nancy that it was great you had such a good vacation with him and will have that special memory of you all together. My condolences. It is never easy to lose a parent at any age.
LGrant   Saturday, July 23, 2011
merritttise
Jules, I'm so so sorry to hear about your dad. I keep thinking about the wonderful vacation that you just had together. What a wonderful memory and what a wonderful man. Obviously I never met your dad, but the ways that you wrote about him portrayed him to be a generous, kind, and thoughtful man. We are thinking and praying for your entire family.
Merritt   Saturday, July 23, 2011
k8day
I am so sorry for your loss.
K8Day   Saturday, July 23, 2011
SallyPants
Oh Jules, I am so sorry. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
SallyPants   Saturday, July 23, 2011
billpearch
So sorry, Jules.
Bill Pearch   Saturday, July 23, 2011
jef
Sorry for your loss.
jef   Sunday, July 24, 2011
RAGrise
My heart breaks for you and your family. He sounds like a truly wonderful and geniune soul. Prayers are being said for you and your family. God bless you.
Richie & Ashley   Sunday, July 24, 2011
reera
Oh Jules, I am so sorry. I hope you know that we are all sending our love to your family. I wish I could give you a hug.
dannie   Sunday, July 24, 2011
ppike
I'm so sorry, Jules. It is never, ever easy, and your dad sounds like the most wonderful man whose presence will be missed by everyone.
Sending love your way.
Peace.
pegi   Sunday, July 24, 2011
SarahS
I'm so sorry, Jules. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Snelly   Sunday, July 24, 2011
hawkwolf
All of us on Humzoo felt like we knew your Dad and we will miss him greatly.
BeanCounter37   Monday, July 25, 2011
sandd
I'm so sorry.
sandd   Monday, July 25, 2011
YammaSue
Jules, I'm sending prayers for your comfort now and in the future. You see, I lost my dad just 6 years ago next week. What you said about him always being your daddy & you his little girl is so true. Memories come flooding back of a wonderful father & grandfather.
Hugs to you and your family.
YammaSue   Monday, July 25, 2011
sbromen
So very sorry for your loss Jules.
Shelly   Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Indeed a special dad. I can hear it in your description. What wonderful memories.
D   Friday, July 29, 2011
spike
Jules, I have been MIA from humzOo and just saw this. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your heart is healing.
Spike   Sunday, August 7, 2011
_DELETED_ckraus
I just saw your post Jules. So very sorry to hear about your father. It is so difficult to lose a parent. My hope is that you and your family will find comfort in your memories of him and in the love he left behind in your hearts and in your lives. May his love warm your days and nights.
Carol   Sunday, August 7, 2011
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