Tuesday, March 11th, 2008
Has anyone seen my sunglasses?

I am a 29 year old working mother of 1 (not counting the 2 dogs), who is starting to feel like she is slowly losing her mind. Last night I told my husband Denny that I am not communicating very well with him anymore. I feel like I have so many things in my brain right now that I can't even think straight. I used to be a highly organized person (Denny even called me a human calendar), who could keep up with every little event, doctor's appt., reminders, schedules, etc. Now I can't even remember if I took my vitamin 10 seconds after taking it.

Denny and I both have very busy jobs, social calendars and we try to keep up with the housework and our daughter equally. He has been so busy lately with his paying job, Humzoo and some side projects that I sometimes only see him at dinner and communicate with him via email. I have taken on some new responsibilities at work which means a heavier workload and new things to learn, so I feel that after picking Dylan up at daycare each night my brain is already fried. Things will pop into my head during the day that I need to tell Denny and then the next time I see him I am like, "Wait, I had to tell you something, but now I forgot again." I told him last night after bumping into him in the house for the 3rd time that I finally remembered but just did not have the energy to tell him the story I previously wanted to tell him. It is like just the act of retelling the story will physically exhaust me.

This could be the reason I get stressed and get sick all of the time (Dylan's germs from daycare may have something to do with that too). I know some friends and family think that Denny and I have neglected them in the past year, but it is nothing personal. It is not that I don't want to hang out with everyone, it is just that I don't have the time, energy or brain power to hang out with them. I have given up a lot of time consuming things that I used to be good at like putting laundry away in a timely manner, writing thank you notes, and brushing my hair, but I still don't have enough time in the day to get it all done and feel good about myself.

Maybe one of these days my brain will catch up and I won't feel like such an idiot. Or maybe the government will add extra time to the day. I just want to know, has anyone seen my sunglasses? Oh nevermind, they are on top of my head.

Tags:  denny, dylan
7 Comments
betsyradish
Dude, I hear you. I have the same problems with forgetting things, and I don't even have kids.

Lord help me when I do. I will probably leave a kid on top of the car and start to drive away...
Betsy   Tuesday, March 11, 2008
dennydeaton
Niki, am I hearing that we have a child? Did I read that right? Well geez, I'd love to meet them sometime, if you can remember that is.

I'll see you tonight, in passing most likely. Or we could have dinner, over iChat. Or maybe I could conference you in to a meeting and we could talk while we're waiting for everyone else to join, then you could drop off. Don't ever say I didn't try.
Denny Deaton   Tuesday, March 11, 2008
betsyradish
Dude Niki, I think Humzoo is the answer to your problem of forgetting things to tell Denny during the day.

Dave, Denny, get working on the "things to tell spouse" tab on everyone's page.
Betsy   Tuesday, March 11, 2008
kristastull
post it notes are an awesome tool! My computer is surrounded by them :)
BrOwN EyeD GirL   Thursday, March 13, 2008
It's momnesia. It's quite common in Utah. Take two glasses of wine (red, preferrably) and go to bed.
Bill and Jan   Thursday, March 13, 2008
Selena
you TOTALLY used to be a human calendar!! ; )
Selena   Sunday, March 16, 2008
girlcarew
I hate to break it to you, but I don't think it gets better for a looooooong. I could have written your post (but add in a second child and not getting paid to work). It sucks when you used to be so good at that memory/organizing thing and then it disappears. My husband says that at least now I know what it's like to be man. Learn to love things like jott.com and remember that that mom you meet that looks like she has it all together and then some is really just on some serious drugs (or is very rich and can buy all the help she needs).
girlcarew   Sunday, March 16, 2008
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