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Tuesday, June 4th, 2013

Today's Hmmmm

I thought I'd share one of the typical odd foster care situations we go through. This probably doesn't even classify as a situation, just me overthinking.

The family that fostered Joseph for his first 13 months started fostering a newborn baby girl about 3 months ago. It originally looked like she'd be reunified with her family fairly quickly. We met the little girl at Joseph's adoption party. She's a cutie and Joseph paid more attention to her than I ever imagined he would. He loved rubbing her head and covering her up even in the midst of the party craziness. I remember being a little jealous of their sweet baby luck, but quickly got over it when I thought of how nice it is to sleep through the night. :-)

Anyway, I just got an email from them. We are going to keep the baby for them a few days next month while they go out of town with their oldest daughter. The foster mom also told me that the baby's parents have dropped out of the picture and it looks like they will start the process to terminate their rights sometime soon. So she will most likely be adopted.

They are having a hard time with it. They are a family who only ever wanted to foster. They already have five older kids. Now they are faced with whether to adopt or not again. She has told me several times that not adopting Joseph was very, very difficult for them. I'm not sure she can give one up again.

But if they do decide to forego adopting her, we would love for her to be Joseph's sister. It would almost be too perfect. We already know her a little bit and we know we work really well with the foster family. Plus, what a sweet little story to tell about her attending her older brother's adoption party! I even have a few pictures of them together.

Mostly I'm just dreaming, crazy. Who knows if she will be adoptable, who knows if they will be able to let one go again. And I have no idea of the rules on how the department places babies like that. I don't know that they'd allow one family to hit the "baby jackpot" twice. :-)

It's just a little awkward. I wonder if she wonders if we would be interested in adopting the baby. I'd like to let her know we would, but it's just so weird, so odd. It's not like this is a puppy.

I guess we'll just wait and see. Would you say anything to her about it? Or just let it be? I certainly don't want to make the decision more difficult. I have a feeling I'm going to be especially crazy after we get to keep her for those three days. What will be, will be, I guess.

I would talk them about it. Since you already have a relationship with them, they would feel better about not adopting (if you were too) since they could keep a relationship with the baby.
bek   Wednesday, June 5, 2013
I agree and maybe when they come to pick her up it would be an easy way to breach the subject. You seem like extended family too each other and maybe that would be an agreeable arrangement.
dannie   Wednesday, June 5, 2013
"to" instead of "too" oops
bek   Thursday, June 6, 2013
Good luck!
girlcarew   Saturday, June 8, 2013
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