The "Right" ChildOne of the big questions we have as we begin this process is who are we hoping to bring into our family. I'd love to be one of those amazing people who are able to welcome any child regardless of their health, age, handicap, history, etc. But I know we are not there yet. Is it selfish to restrict our search to healthy babies? Probably. But we dream of experiencing the newborn stage. We dream of knowing and bonding with our child from the beginning. So for now, we will pursue domestic infant adoption. I have a feeling one day we will also be ready to build a home for an older child, but not yet.
Another factor we have to consider is race. It's unavoidable. Many, many more African American and biracial children need homes than white ones. The wait is often 6 months or less for an AA child, 2-4 years for a white one. We've discussed it and we personally have no problem at all adopting interracially. I know our families would fully welcome any child. But we really do worry about the child. The area we live in is predominately white, the schools are white, and as a result most of our friends are white. How would that make the child feel? What would their life be like here? We struggle with this and need to do a lot more research on the issue.